Dating a man that is going through a divorce
Is he timid and easily swayed and you can see that a lack of a spine is what allowed a manipulative wife to get everything she could from him before she fled?Most men going through a divorce will talk about it all the time.If he puts pressure on you to allow him to move in with you – especially if the source of his rent is dubious – follow the advice of one strong woman's grandmother: "don't fatten frogs for snakes" …Don't just let him move in without addressing his past in order for you to observe clues for your future.You might actually become a mini-expert on your state's legal nuances involving separation and community property. This is often a turnoff, but you can make this time matter for you in addition to just being a shoulder to cry on.
Does he have bouts of anger that might indicate his ex-wife was afraid of him?
Is his idea of a relationship to be a lazy slug and mooch off his lover?
Can you mentally compare how he is now with how you perceive him to have been just a few months or years ago when the marriage crumbled?
If his discussion of the divorce is a one hundred percent blaming of his soon-to-be ex-wife, take a step back. If, at the core, the problem with his wife was a drug or alcohol problem, she may be responsible for a big part of the breakup, but he may have developed co-dependent tendencies.
This means that he needs to be part of a relationship drama instead of part of a relationship.
Any stalling, or worse, attempts at reconciliation are red lights for you to put a stop to seeing him until he is officially, legally single. If so, that tells you that he is willing to work on disagreements as well as letting you know that the divorce was not a rash decision.